HOW SAFE IS YOUR CHILD?

A CONVICTED SEX OFFENDER AGAINST A CHILD TELLS HIS STORY

Nothing is more disturbing than hearing about a sex crime and especially more so when it involves an adult against a child. Like all interviews on Out Loud we go straight to the source. I sat down with a convicted/registered sex offender against a child. I refer to him in the interview as a “child sex offender” and that is a little misleading. There is such a thing as a child sex offender. It is a child that commits a sex crime. This is not the case. You see, “Bob” (name was changed for this interview to protect his identity) didn’t just molest any child; it was his 9 year old nephew. As you can imagine securing this interview was very difficult and challenging. If I was to tell you that most sexual assaults are committed by strangers, I would be wrong. This is one of the myths. Approximately 80% of all sexual assault victims were abused by someone known to the victim. Only four (4%) of sexual assaults are committed by a stranger (Focus Adolescent Services). Another myth is “children who are sexually assaulted will sexually assault others when they grow up.” Fact is approximately 70% of all adult sex offenders were not sexually abused as a child. I wasn’t sure what to expect when “Bob” showed up. Deep down I didn’t expect him to show up at all, but he did and he wasn’t alone. “Bob” brought his wife. That’s right his wife! We call her “Sue” for the purpose of this interview. I was even more shocked to learn that she as well wanted to tell her story. Why is she still with this man?

There are approximately 190 registered sex offenders in Grayson County alone. At the time this interview was taped there were 32 sex offenders in Grayson County on probation. Out of the 32 only 2 were against adults. That means that 30 out of the 32 are on probation for sex crimes against a child. Consider that these are only the ones that got caught.

Some may say I was too easy on “Bob” and others may say I was unfair. My objective is not to be easy or fair. My goal is to “get into the mind” of “Bob” and what better way to learn what drives a sex offender to prey on children than to hear it straight from the perpetrator. I wanted answers and I needed “Bob” to stand up and be accountable and inform all of us what he did and how he groomed his victim. What did he do? Was he abused as a child? What is grooming and how did he do it? Is he remorseful? How does he live his life today? How did he get caught? Does he think he is cured or will he always be a danger to children? The answers will shock you!

Watch this interview now and learn from what “Bob” has to say to protect your child. I’m sure after you watch this interview you will know a little bit more on how to talk to your children about this sensitive and uncomfortable subject.