Domestic abuse in Texoma

By: Stephanie Breltic Email
By: Stephanie Breltic Email

GRAYSON COUNTY, Tex. -- If you think domestic violence is a problem that doesn't affect you, you may be wrong. Statistics show nearly one-third of women in the U.S. will be physically or sexually abused during their lives, but area prosecutors, law enforcement, and crisis centers are trying to change that.

Grayson County District Attorney Joe Brown recently put up several billboards around Sherman showing the disturbing statistics: approximately 3,000 women are killed by their husband or partner every year.

One local woman says she almost became one of those statistics.

Tascha Bond is a domestic violence survivor and an advocate trying to help others break out of bad situations.

"It takes a lot of courage and strength to be able to leave that situation, the first or the eighth time," Bond says.

Bond says when she first met her now ex-husband, he was a loving, kind man, but she says all that changed once they were married. He became verbally abusive and controlling, and then one night, he got physical.

"The final straw was an evening that erupted in torture. Basically I was beaten in my own home, and I had to crawl out the window and run for help."

Bond says she knew then it was time to leave. She pressed charges and then filed for divorce. Her ex-husband was convicted of rape and other domestic violence charges in Bryan County and is now spending 52 years in an Oklahoma penitentiary, but Bond says not all women are able to leave.

That is why bond says the billboards recently put up by the grayson County District Attorney's Office are so important.

"The more a man sees that he can get away with it, and the man feels empowered, the worse the abuse gets, so we want to stop the dangerous situations that are really life threatening,” district attorney Joe Brown says.

Brown and Bond both encourage victims to get help when they are ready. They suggest crisis centers, which provide a safe home for women escaping violent situations, and they also provide programs like counseling, support groups, and even life skills training to their clients.

Last year the crisis center helped about 800 people. Misty Thompson, the family violence director, says before the billboards went up, much of the center's business was from referrals. Now, more and more women are seeking help on their own.

"Hopefully, all that will make them feel better about themselves to understand that they don't deserve to be treated like that," Thompson said.

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  • by Lynn Location: Sherman on Feb 25, 2008 at 01:13 PM
    I work in the school system and you would be shocked at how commonplace domestic violence is. I hope the signs and info are in Spanish, because many of the abusers are hispanic males who believe they have a right to do this to their wives. I'm in no way being racial or putting down this heritage. All I'm saying is this needs to reach the hispanic commnunity ,too.
  • by Ardmore Woman Location: Ardmore on Feb 25, 2008 at 11:23 AM
    Anonymous... I also have known more women that married abusive jerks without knowing what they were like until it was too late!! I was married to one and it is only by the Grace of God that I made it out alive with my child! He wasn't like that either before we married, he ended up drinking all the time and became that which is more the norm in this type of behavior. Very few women go into a relationship with these types of guys KNOWING what they are getting!! And I think there are just as many men out there looking for that "meal ticket" that is so desperate to have a wife they put up with it. Men and women alike need to realize there is NO reason to stay with someone like that, in the end its usually either them or you and God forbid if you have kids that get caught in the crossfire!! This woman is in my prayers along with all the other men and women in these circumstances that think there is NO WAY OUT... Talk to someone, anyone and get help and get out!!
  • by Anonymous on Feb 25, 2008 at 09:36 AM
    I wonder how many of these women keep ending up with these abousive creeps just because they're so desperate to have a man in their lives, someone they think will help support their kids... very sad. I've known several women who married abusive jerks because they were looking for a "meal ticket" and ended up with much more than they bargained for.
  • by Anonymous Location: Sherman on Feb 23, 2008 at 11:14 AM
    Thanks for sharing your story Tascha. You are a true inspiration.
  • by Jerry on Feb 23, 2008 at 09:08 AM
    This is just joe browns way to intise problems,he has more important things to do i think!!!!
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